What Caregiving Is Teaching Me about Writing Fiction

by Mar 28, 2022Special Needs Parenting, Works in Progress0 comments

I explain what caregiving is teaching me about writing fiction. Although the two areas of life seem far apart, the parallels are there.

What caregiving is teaching me about writing fiction could fill a book. If someone had tried to tell me, when I was a kid emptying my dad’s urinal and operating his Hoyer Lift, that caregiving and writing have a lot in common, I wouldn’t have believed it. Nor would I have believed it as a young mom caring for our medically-fragile baby. But as my mother’s health continues to decline and deadlines for my mystery series are looming, I can’t ignore the similarities between the two.

Writing may or may not be part of God’s plan for your future. However, I know he has something in store for your future, and he’s using your life as a caregiver to prepare you for it. Maybe he’ll also use these four lessons caregiving is teaching me about writing fiction to prepare you for whatever lies ahead in your life.

#1: Planning Is Important

As caregivers, we devote portions of our days to planning. We schedule appointments, check to see that the car is gassed up, and investigate special needs trusts long before our kids turn 18. Had this skill been put to use when I began working on my first mystery novel, maybe it wouldn’t have taken me 10 years to finish it. Thanks to my daughter, who showed me a method she created for plot planning, the second mystery was done in a year.

#2: Surprises Happen Despite our Plans

Caregivers can plan and plan and plan, and things will still surprise us, right?

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By Jolene

Jolene Philo is the author of the Different Dream series for parents of kids with special needs. She speaks at parenting and special needs conferences around the country. She’s also the creator and host of the Different Dream website. Sharing Love Abundantly With Special Needs Families: The 5 Love Languages® for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities, which she co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, was released in August of 2019 and is available at local bookstores, their bookstore website, and at Amazon. The first book in her cozy mystery series, See Jane Run!, features people with disabilities and will be released in June of 2022.


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