Lord, I Don’t Understand… But I Trust You

by Feb 21, 2024Encouragement, Special Needs Parenting, Spiritual Support0 comments

Sandy Ramsey-Trayvick explains that a true relationship with God enables her to say, "Lord, I don't understand, but I trust You."


“Lord, I don’t understand… but I trust you.” Have you ever told God you don’t understand the challenges he puts in the life of your child with disabilities? Have you ever wondered how to move from not understanding Him to trusting Him? In this post guest blogger Sandy Ramsey-Trayvick offers an answer that may surprise you and give you hope.

As special needs parents, we can experience so many circumstances with our kids that we didn’t expect or don’t understand. When the diagnosis comes; or when the prognosis is difficult; or when we’re being bombarded with bad news, it can be so easy to succumb to disappointment. We don’t understand why God allowed this or why He didn’t do that. We’re faced with disappointment again when we expect God to show up in a certain way at a certain time or do a certain thing, and He doesn’t. We’re disappointed and confused and we don’t understand.

We may wrestle with how to reconcile our unmet expectations and desires with our beliefs about what a faithful, trustworthy God would do—should do—in those situations. If we’re not careful, we can begin to quietly—in our hearts—correlate our circumstances to the character of God. We start to wonder whether or not God is faithful or good or… something else. Rather than taking our disappointments and questions directly to the Lord, we may suppress or hide those feelings. Meanwhile, as our disappointments and questions remain unaddressed, our hearts are quietly hardening towards God.

Some of us may have been taught to not question God. That to do so was dishonoring to Him or indicative of a lack of faith or maturity. As a result, we allow our unspoken questions and deep disappointments to lead our hearts and trust away from God rather than us leading those same questions and disappointments to the only One who can answer them.

The truth is that God not only allows our questions, He welcomes them. God wants to hear our questions and disappointments. (He already knows we have them.) Sharing them with Him invites a dialogue—a conversation.

Over time, honest conversation builds an authentic, intimate relationship. It invites friendship with God, which leads to trust. We learn to trust Him because we’ve spent time with Him and we know Him. Not because our circumstances are perfect or because we understand or even like everything He’s doing, but because we know Him.

I heard someone say that, when God doesn’t answer her prayers or show up in the way that she’d hoped, she’s learned to start telling herself, “God must be up to something.” This perspective, she admitted, was born out of her relationship with God. From spending time talking and listening to the Lord. Getting to know Him, His character, His ways, and His love for her.

What if we adopted that same mindset? A perspective that says, “When God doesn’t do what I’d hoped or expected, rather than doubting or losing hope, I choose to believe that God must be up to something. Something bigger. Something better. Something that I don’t know to ask Him for yet.” This would mean choosing to trust Him in spite of things we don’t understand. It means believing that, despite my disappointment, He is still for me. It means choosing to not make assumptions about His motives that don’t line up with His character.

It’s a mindset that comes from being in a relationship with Him.

It enables us to make the leap from “Lord, I don’t understand” to “but I trust You.”


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By Sandy Ramsey-Trayvick

Sandy and her husband are parents to three young adult children. Their son was diagnosed with multiple disabilities 24 years ago after a devastating illness as a toddler. Following her son’s diagnosis, Sandy quit her job to become his full-time caregiver and advocate.

Sandy is currently a Certified Professional Coach. Her focus is to empower special needs parents who are feeling weary by helping them to renew their hope and strength and reactivate their joy.

You can learn more about Sandy and her work at www.UNDisabledLIVES.org. You can also reach her at Sandy@UNDisabledLIVES.org.


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