Caregivers Can Do Hard Things

by Sep 25, 2023Grief, Special Needs Parenting1 comment

Jolene explains how the lessons she learned from her mother as a child helped her to understand that caregivers can do hard things.

Caregivers can do hard things.

In the nearly sixty-seven years my mother and I shared on this earth, she taught me many lessons. The one I leaned on the most as our time to say good-bye drew near was this one.

Caregivers can do hard things.

As a child, I didn’t know this. When I was eight or nine, my teacher gave a lecture about the importance of standing up for ourselves on the playground. Around the same time, my Sunday School teacher challenged us to tell others about Jesus, even when someone scoffed. I remember thinking, “I don’t want to do that. I just want my mom to take care of me.”

Mom was good at that. She cared for a lot of people.

  • her husband, my father, for seven decades after his multiple sclerosis diagnosis.
  • her children, insisting we work hard in school so we could go to college.
  • her students, expecting them to learn and praising their efforts.
  • my infant son, pouring my breast milk into his feeding tube, so I could keep pumping.
  • my daughter, while my husband and I tended to our son in the hospital after another surgery.
  • her dying mother, holding her hand and not letting go until after she drew her last breath.

She showed me and my siblings that caregivers can do hard things. Because of her, when her memory began to fail and she needed others to care for her, my brother and sister and I were ready.

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By Jolene

Jolene Philo is the author of several books for the caregiving community. She speaks at parenting and special needs conferences around the country. Sharing Love Abundantly With Special Needs Families: The 5 Love Languages® for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities, which she co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, was released in August of 2019 and is available at local bookstores, their bookstore website, and Amazon. See Jane Dance!, the third book in her West River cozy mystery series which features characters affected by disability, will be released October 2, 2023.

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  1. shannon colclough

    I can’t image how hard it is to be a caregiver. When caring for my mom when she was recovering from Cancer was a lot for me. Caregivers do so much and they should be rewarded for their efforts.

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Jolene Philo is a published author, speaker, wife, and mother of a son with special needs.



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