First World Problems and Caregiving Problems
First world problems and caregiving problems are dominating my life right now. They’ve made re-entry after a month-long trip to celebrate my husband’s retirement rather rocky. Here are a few examples of what’s been happening.
The installation of our new heating and cooling system required punching numerous holes in our walls. The work was supposed to be completed while we were gone, but won’t be done for weeks or possibly months.
That’s a first world problem.
Hospice re-evaluated my mother after she had bouts of major confusion and agitation while we were gone, but she still doesn’t qualify for their services.
That’s a caregiving problem.
The morning after a heavy rain, we discovered a leak in the new addition just as a workman came to deal with a backed up basement drain.
First world problem followed by first world problem.
My mother keeps asking when she gets to move in with us. I keep telling her that as long as work delays continue and our walls are pocked with holes, it’s not safe for her to move in.
That’s a caregiving problem solved by a first world problem.
That final confluence of first world problems and caregiving problems got me thinking about how they’ve impacted my life in the past.
Our newborn son’s condition at birth was an age old problem. His diagnosis and surgery at birth caused a host of complications and subsequent surgeries. Those complications were first world problems.
Had our son been born in a different country, not to mention in a different day and age, he wouldn’t be alive today. In other words, first world solutions for his condition caused first world problems and caregiving problems that our family dealt with for years. During those years, all my thoughts, all life revolved around my son.
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Jolene Philo is the author of the Different Dream series for parents of kids with special needs. She speaks at parenting and special needs conferences around the country. She’s also the creator and host of the Different Dream website. Sharing Love Abundantly With Special Needs Families: The 5 Love Languages® for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities, which she co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, was released in August of 2019 and is available at local bookstores, their bookstore website, and at Amazon.
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