St. Practice Day Wisdom

by JoleneMar 17, 2021Holidays2 comments

St. Practice Day is the brainchild of my 3-year-old granddaughter. Thanks to her, my perspective on waiting has changed, and I'm so glad.

In honor of two important people in my family, Happy St. Patrick’s Day! The first person is my maternal grandmother, Josephine Estelle Newell Hess. She was named after her father, Joseph Newell, who immigrated from Ireland to Canada to Iowa where he became a successful farmer. The second person is my three-year-old granddaughter. She can hardly wait for St. Practice Day to arrive.

That’s right. She calls it St. Practice Day.

None of the four adults who live at our house can bear to correct her. In fact, we encourage her to say St. Practice Day at every opportunity. The more she does, the more firmly I believe her pronunciation is an apt metaphor for the past year spent waiting for the pandemic to end and for life to return to something akin to normal, which is taking much longer than most of us anticipated.

Back to St. Practice Day.

Waiting is a huge part of being a writer. For a doer like me, waiting made me crazy when I entered the profession. Sometimes it still does. But not as often as before because I changed the way I think about it. Waiting, I’ve come to understand, is practice. That perspective has made me view the past 12 months, which decimated my 2020 speaking and book sale income, with a sense of anticipation.

2020 became, at least for me, a St. Practice Year.

There was time to practice writing fiction and find a publisher to launch the West River Mystery Series. There was time to convert teacher training workshops to a virtual format and practice the technology required. There was time to explore the possibility of creating an undergraduate or graduate level education class about trauma in children. Because 2020 was a year of waiting–make that practicing–those 3 ideas are becoming 2021 realities.

I encourage you to reframe the past year, to view it not as a year of waiting, but as a year with time to explore new ideas. To practice new skills. To discover that you’re now equipped to do something brand new and unexpected.

What are you waiting for?

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By Jolene

Jolene Philo is the author of the Different Dream series for parents of kids with special needs. She speaks at parenting and special needs conferences around the country. She’s also the creator and host of the Different Dream website. Sharing Love Abundantly With Special Needs Families: The 5 Love Languages® for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities, which she co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, was released in August of 2019 and is available at local bookstores, their bookstore website, and at Amazon.

2 Comments

Jolene on March 17, 2021 at 10:12 am

Hi Kathy, your second question is a good one. Deciding which “practices” are priorities is important. With a sheet rock crew noisily installing and mudding dry wall in our new addition, my priority for the day is to say a prayer of gratitude for the noise. After all, it’s a sign of progress after a long wait. Take care, Jolene
Kathy Kuhl on March 17, 2021 at 7:53 am

I love the phrase and idea of “Saint Practice Day.“ How funny and wise!
A second question: what new practices do I want to adopt this year?
Yes, it’s good to reflect on what new practices were forced on us by necessity, and consider which to keep practicing. Here we’re walking more and speaking with family and neighbors more. I’m taking longer attending to birdsong and signs of spring.