That Perfect Scar
Guest blogger Stephanie Ballard stays busy caring for her son with heart-related special needs. But as February, also known as Heart Month, drew to a close, she found enough time to pick up a pen and write a poem. It’s a poem to her son, who had heart surgery as a tiny baby, and lives with a perfect scar on his torso. If you’re the parent of a child who had early surgery, you will want to have a tissue ready before you go any further.
The Perfect Scar
Sometimes I have those moments
When I think…life’s just not fair
Then I think of all you’ve been through
And I see the scar you bear.
A faded line right down your chest
Made with such careful precision
We wanted you to have a chance
Could there be any other decision?
And so I trace that “perfect” scar
Made with the utmost care
And I realize there is purpose
Behind this scar you wear.
What have you taught us?
You’ve taught us how to face a storm
(Some things are just out of our hands)
Life has no handy guidebook
(Things don’t always go as you’ve planned)
People come into our lives
(Sometimes it is just for a season)
But God brings them into our lives
(And I know that He must have a reason)
Normal, uneventful days
(The kind that we always hoped for)
These are the days I say, “Wow, God!”
We just never know what lies in store.
If I can place a feeding tube,
Without even getting distraught
Perhaps, maybe, I might be
Much stronger than I thought.
It’s okay to be afraid
And it’s all right to cry
It’s okay to feel lost sometimes
It’s even okay to ask…why?
You face life with courage
(Knowing God set you apart)
Every little thing you do
You do with all of your heart.
No crystal ball exists for us
(To see us through each strife)
We only have one wish for you…
An ordinary life.
You’ve taught us to love one another
(Helping each other to cope)
You’ve taught us compassion for others
You’ve taught us to never lose hope.
You already have quite a story
Which you can someday share
And I can see it’s beauty
Behind that scar you wear.
~Stephanie Ballard
Does Your Child Have a Perfect Scar?
Are you the parent of a child with a perfect scar? Have your years parenting your child revealed a purpose for what your child has gone through? Leave a comment in the box about what you’ve learned…or perhaps are still learning from your child’s perfect scar.
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By Stephanie Ballard
Stephanie Ballard is the mother of two sons, her youngest son, Braeden, was born with Kabuki Syndrome and congenital heart defects. Her oldest son, Colin is in the military. She enjoys writing poetry and life lessons about her journey in life.
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That is so true, Liza. Our children can bear their scars proudly! Jolene
Love it! This has been a journey for us! If u overlook that “PERFECT SCAR” u would not know the battles Faith has fought!
Yes she does!
As always, Stephanie’s words go straight to the heart! Dana
What a wonderful idea, Melissa. I am so glad Steph’s poem spoke to your heart. Jolene
I am so glad it touched you, Susan!
Jolene
oh what a touching poem…….. My grandson has a perfect scar too! TOF 4 years past his surgery!!! God has a plan for our little heart warriors……… BLESS YOUR HEART <3
MIMMIE
Thank you! This poem is beautiful. I am also a heart mom and I am keeping this poem for my daughter