12 Positive Lessons from Raising a Child with Autism
12 positives about raising a child with autism? Really?
That’s what I thought when the title appeared on internet special needs group list. The link required investigation, so I gave it a click and ended up at a Brandi Shinn post. That was pretty cool because a couple months back, her list of 10 parent priorities was reviewed at DifferentDream.com, too.
12 Positive Lessons about Autism
So here’s a quick rundown of the 12 positives Brandi learned raising her child with autism.
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- Don’t worry about tomorrow. Instead, Shinn says, enjoy today and take one day at a time.
- All things are possible. Brandi says her son has shown her “that with patience, endurance and hard work, all things are possible.”
- Everyone just needs a chance. Everyone needs someone to believe in them.
- God can and will use anyone who is willing. God sees potential.
- Not to judge. Her son, Will, doesn’t pay any attention to intelligence, social status, or your political standing. He either likes you or he doesn’t.
- Be honest. Say how you really feel, like her son does. Even when it would be more socially acceptable if he didn’t.
- Unconditional love. Brandi’s son taught her to love unconditionally.
- Forgiveness. Shinn says, “Having a child who is prone to these outbursts at times towards myself and others calls for a tremendous amount of forgiveness and often.”
- Rejoice in the small things. When milestones are reached, it is a huge time of celebration.
- Laughter is the best medicine. Shinn says, “…no matter how difficult a trial may seem, or how dark things may get, there is always a reason to smile, to laugh and to have joy.”
- Showing compassion and love. Because Will lacks social skills and lack of concern about the opinions of others, he doesn’t hesitate to show his mama love in public.
- Christians should not judge. Shinn states that “raising a child with autism or any special need you learn how judgmental others can be.” (She’s referring to fellow Christian believers.) She goes on to say, “Will has taught us to treat everyone with kindness, greet everyone with a smile, and to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. When we begin to see everyone as a child of God and someone who might have their own issues to face, we will begin to judge others less and love more.”
Can You Add to the List?
Whatever your child’s special needs may be, I hope you’ve learned some positive lessons, too. If so, leave a comment to add to Brandi’s list.
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By Jolene
Jolene Philo is the author of several books for the caregiving community. She speaks at parenting and special needs conferences around the country. Sharing Love Abundantly With Special Needs Families: The 5 Love Languages® for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities, which she co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, was released in August of 2019 and is available at local bookstores, their bookstore website, and Amazon. See Jane Sing!, the second book in the West River cozy mystery series, which features characters affected by disability, was released in November of 2022.
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Debra,
Thank you for introducing us to your grandson. He is blessed to have a supportive grandma…and so are his parents.
Jolene
My nine year old Grandson has Aspergers ASD and he is the delight of our lives. When he was diagnosed I was devastated, thinking that all of my dreams for his future were gone. Today I see his potential and gifts and am so thankful that we have this miracle child who loves us unashamed and unconditionally. What a joy, we are so blessed to have the opportunity to get to know, love and raise and this gift from God.
I love it Connie! Parenting is very s-t-r-e-t-c-h-i-n-g, isn’t it? Do you watch Parenthood on NBC? One of the characters lives with autism and also has a bug/critter fascination. You would probably identify with his parents!
Jolene
Thanks for sharing Brandi’s list. Here is my addition.
I have learned to appreciate God’s creation through my son’s focused interest in bugs, reptiles and amphibians. Raised as a sheltered suburban girl I had no interest in learning about these creatures except knowing how quickly I could kill them if I saw one. Thanks to my son, JM, I can now tell the difference between a frog and a toad, plus I actually enjoyed studying his collection of insects stored in assorted jars on our front porch.