10 Ways for Churches to Care for Special Needs Families

How can churches care for special needs families? Here are 10 ideas I came up with based on what our church did for my dad who had special needs.

What are some practical ways for churches to care for special needs families? At last spring’s Accessibility Summit, I was part of a panel that tried to answer that question. Today’s post shares the suggestions I provided based on childhood observations of the care extended after my dad was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis.

Ten Ways for Churches to Care for Special Needs Families

  1. Be there when the crisis hits. Whether it’s a devastating diagnosis before birth, soon after birth, or when the child is older, have a plan in place so someone provides face-to-face support soon after the crisis begins.
  2.  Be prepared to watch and follow the parent or family’s lead. Families need presence and compassion rather than theological insights in a crisis. Take time to listen and assess their spiritual maturity rather than saying things like “God is sovereign over all things” while people are grappling with new realities.
  3. Be prepared for hard questions. Parents or family members may well ask questions like “Why would a loving God allow this to happen to my child?” That’s a question most aren’t prepared to answer. However, we can assure them that God knows how it feels to be a parent who loses a child, that Jesus, His Son, knows what it is to suffer, and that He weeps with those who weep.
  4. Be aware of the guilt parents feel. They may not voice their guilt, but most parents feel they are in some way responsible for their child’s special needs. They need assurance that their child’s condition is not a consequence of their actions or punishment for their sins. (John 9:1–9)
  5. Be aware of the energy required to care for someone with special needs and to live with disability. Therefore they may need to turn down invitations, arrive late, or leave events early. Do not take this personally or label them as irresponsible.
  6. Be there for the long haul. Special needs caregivers need support far beyond the crisis of diagnosis. Many caregiving situations last years and even decades. The church needs to stand with them throughout the journey.
  7. Be there for the family, whether or not someone comes to faith. Christian compassion for special needs families must not be contingent upon family members coming to faith.
  8. Be aware of long term, reoccurring grief. The grief parents feel while caring for a child with special needs continues throughout the life of the child. Rather than being able to come to closure, their grief returns with each missed milestone or life experience.
  9. Be prepared to offer practical help. Provide meals, pet care, and childcare. Do house cleaning yard work, and laundry. Stop by to visit parents or play with kids.
  10. Be prepared to be a spiritual mentor. Read the Bible together, suggest books to read and discuss, ask how you can pray each month, find ways for practicing spiritual disciplines that take demands of caregiving into account.
Resources to Help Churches Care for Special Needs Families

Books:
If God Is Good: Faith in the Midst of Suffering and Evil by Randy Alcorn
Hearing Jesus Speaks Into Your Sorrow by Nancy Guthrie
The Praying Life by Paul Miller
A Different Dream for My Child: Meditations for Parents of Critically or Chronically Ill Children by Jolene Philo
Different Dream Parenting: A Practical Guide to Parenting a Child with Special Needs by Jolene Philo
The Caregiver’s Notebook: An Organizational Tool and Support to Help You Care for Others by Jolene Philo

Online:
www.KeyMinistry.org
www.irrisistiblechurch.org
www.snappin.org

More Ways Churches Can Care for Special Needs Families

What’s missing from the list of ways churches can care for special needs families? Add them in the comment box!

Do you like what you see at DifferentDream.com? You can receive more great content by subscribing to the quarterly Different Dream newsletter and signing up for the daily RSS feed delivered to your email inbox. You can sign up for the first in the pop up box and the second at the bottom of this page.

How can churches care for special needs families? Here are 10 ideas I came up with based on what our church did for my dad who had special needs.

No Comments Yet

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Meet Jolene

Jolene Philo is a published author, speaker, wife, and mother of a son with special needs.

Categories

Archives

Stairlifts Reviews 100 Best Disability Blogs

Special Needs Toys

Get Different Dream In Your Inbox

Plus a FREE gift!

Subscribe to our newsletter to receive the latest news and updates from Different Dream and receive How to Use The Caregiver's Notebook VLOG Series eBook for FREE as our gift to you, our new favorite subscriber.

 

Success! Thank you for subscribing! Check your email for confirmation and your FREE gift!