Expecting a Baby with Special Needs: We Are Not Afraid

by Oct 8, 2014How-Tos, Special Needs Parenting4 comments

It’s my pleasure to introduce you to Philip Masterson. He and his wife are expecting their first child, and they know their little boy will most likely be born with special needs. In today’s post, he talks about how he and his wife have adjusted to this news and are prepared to nurture their baby in very special and a few humorous ways.

Expecting a Baby with Special Needs: We Are Not Afraid

Parenting completes life for many adults. I was so happy when I first found out my wife was expecting. My wife and I have hoped for a baby for a long time. But, my high hopes were crushed when we learned our baby might have special needs. My wife and I feared what our baby’s life would be like when he came into the world. Would he ever lead a happy and productive life? Or would he live through an eternity of misery.

After talking to friends and loved ones, I learned that other parents are going through similar experiences like ours. One of our family friends, who has given birth at the age of 40, just had a baby with a similar developmental disability. They helped us see life holds many promises for our unborn child. At first, I may struggle to parent a child with special needs. However, I know there will be a bright side to raising this child, too.

Expecting a Baby with Special Needs: Non-Verbal Challenges

We’ve prepared ourselves for a child who may have delayed communication skills. I want do my part in guiding our child in learning how to get his message across to other people smoothly. With my wife’s help, I’ll probably teach him a thing or two about making hand gestures when talking to others.

Expecting a Baby with Special Needs: Obsession Challenges

We’ve read that some children with special needs have obsessions. I’m hoping that means he’ll eventually become an organized person we can put in charge of organizing disarrayed stuff at home. I know he will feel important if he is given a responsibility in the family.

Expecting a Baby with Special Needs: Learning Challenges

It will be no surprise if our child has some form of learning disability. In that case, storytelling will be one of the best things about raising him. I plan to have have fun role-playing with him while reading fairy tales. I want to inspire his creativity and develop his learning skills.

Expecting a Baby with Special Needs: Challenges and Benefits

True, my child may be more dependent on me because of his special needs. I hope that will make me feel more special and loved. I know there’s a lot in store for us. But, we’ve learned to look at the situation positively. This child deserves the love and care he needs, just like any other baby.

We know there’s a reason why God wants us to raise this baby. Having children is a blessing. I encourage all parents out there to nurture and protect all their children, including their unborn babies.

What Suggestions Do You Have for Parents Expecting a Baby with Special Needs?

Now it’s time for experienced parents of children with special needs. What advice do you have to prepare Philip and his wife and other couples for the arrival of a baby with special needs? Share them in the comment box!

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By Philip Masterson

Philip Masterson is a market specialist, researcher, security advocate, and freelance writer. He has written a range of topics including home and community security, technology, environment, world market, and world businesses. For more updates about Philip, follow him on Twitter.

4 Comments

  1. Philip Masterson

    I will definitely keep your advice in mind, Sandy. I know that having a child with special needs can be hard but my wife and I would like to focus on the happy parts and enjoy every moment we have with our child

  2. Philip Masterson

    Hi Kerith. Thanks so much for your advice, it can be a big help for my family. Our son is now 7 months old and we’re loving every part of it. I like the idea of recording milestones. My wife and I would definitely do the same.

  3. Sandy McCann

    I’m really sorry for your news. It certainly is not what any parent expects to learn. Our son was born with down syndrome in 1988; he’s now 26 and I can’t imagine life without him. But, I wish someone had said “Congratulations! when he was born. I would have helped. Instead, it felt like a funeral.

    I guess I would say, expect that there will be moments of great joy, and moments of sadness over other losses. For example, our son would love to drive a car but that’s not going to happen. But, he just took 2 silver medals in the state kayaking championship for Special Olympics. (He told us that morning that he was going to come home with a silver medal. Go figure!)

  4. Kerith Stull

    It sounds like your family is well on their way to being prepared for the “what could happen” things. But, expect the unexpected. I encourage you to read my post about advice for new special needs families. I pray it is a blessing to you. http://brielleandme.net/sn-babies/

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